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September 20, 2015

One year.

Today is our first wedding anniversary. One year as husband and wife. One year as Eva's stepmom. One year as a family. 

I've learned a few things. 

I've learned that a lot of the cliches are true. 

Marriage is wonderful.
Sometimes it is hard.
It goes by faster than you expect.
You have to "fight" fairly. I've learned that when you hear, "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?" in your head you better pay attention.

The fun/lightness of saying "my husband" or "my stepdaughter" or "Mrs. Buehne" has not worn off. One year later, hearing and saying those things still makes me happy. I feel a lightness when I say them. I've felt a lightness every day since the day I met Ben at that Italian restaurant. The Italian restaurant we brought Eva to today,. "Because it's our special day?" Yes, sweet girl. Because this is our special day.

p.s. Eva, I hope you marry your best friend. I hope you find someone who supports you in every thing you do, who knows when/how to carefully call you on things you do that are detrimental to your soul. I hope you find someone who is careful with you, respects you, encourages you, loves and honors you. Makes you laugh and shake and cry the good kind of tears. Who constantly reminds you of how lucky and smart you were to marry them. Who never makes it feel like work, even when the world beats down on you. Because this will happen. Marriage is not supposed to be easy, but it's not supposed to feel like work either. Marriage is a job, yes. For me it is a job I feel like I have done forever. I feel like I have always known Ben and Eva and that I've always known what to do. Being this man's wife and this girl's stepmom is the most natural thing. This is how it should be. Please don't ever settle for less than this. It is out there.

But the best friend thing. It is a total game changer.

I love you, Benjamin. One year down, forever to go.

p.p.s. Our wedding day was one of the best of my life. I'm so glad I made this list.

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